Those people who just seem to have it all. No financial worries, loyal friends, self-employment and a life full of adventures. The decisions they make do not, for the most part, backfire and they continue their upward spiral. Do you ever look at these people in wonderment or even envy? How did they do that? How did they end up there? Well, many of these individuals have a good start in life whether it be a secure family unit, a decent education or parents with sacks full of cash. Then there are those who didn’t have all those wonderful things tied up with string and they had to literally build their life from the bottom up, brick by brick.
And therein lies your answer.
There is a choice. The choice to realise your own true potential or to bury it and live in the system that so many of us curse. The realisation that we have this choice hits people at different times in their life. Some realise it young and dive into their dreams headfirst, others live with their heads in the clouds for a few decades then it clicks… and the rest may never realise it. This potential isn’t literally about being rich and successful, it is about discovering what gives you fulfillment and chasing it down until it is yours.
In every corner of the world there are successful people who appear to be idiots. Noted, that isn’t a nice statement to make but we have all thought this about someone at some point. ‘How do they even do this or have that?’ The difference between the successful and the stale is that successful people 100% believe in their personal goals and ambitions. Another part of the ‘realisation’ is that nobody apart from you is willing to give your dreams a go. The fear of failing can be paralysing even though we know the consequence of failing…is failing. It doesn’t mean we can’t try again by adapting our approach. We may need to adapt it 100 times. And this is how success is made, by not giving up.
Like any new project, you must get your teeth into it and have the willpower to be consistent over an extended period. If there are aspects to your dream you don’t understand, like running a day to day business or something random like painting techniques, then there are ways and means of finding out. It is all dependent on the level of effort you are committed to putting in. For instance, this blog may have never appeared if the writer chose to waste hours watching others live their dreams out on YouTube, however, willpower overrode that desire and now you’re sat reading this!
So, we are programmed to settle for our circumstances. Even though every one of us can break the ceiling we were born under and reach new levels of our self. The first step is to plan, the second is to implement and the third…is to not let your arse drop out at the first hurdle. Dreams die when dreamers stop dreaming and outside influences tend to impact heavily on this. Tell people your dreams and they will say you’re aiming too high, wasting money, wasting time or that what you are doing will not work. But how do they know if they have never done it?
The truth is people have a fear of you realising your potential and acting on it. It could be out of love or hate but either way, realising your potential breeds change and change is scary for those who want you to stay exactly as you are.