The last blog post referred to men being animalistic and how this is the main driver of their cheating. Women on the other hand are mostly governed by their heart and tend to cheat due to emotional issues they are experiencing in the relationship.
The majority of women just want to be a man’s number one and to have him show that to the rest of the world. Inappropriate behaviour such as contacting, touching and getting emotionally close to another woman is very damaging to the current woman’s wellbeing. She will begin to feel worthless and have low self-esteem. As is the nature of…well…human nature, it is much easier for a woman to get a man into bed than it is for a man to get a woman into bed. Such opportunities make it easy for women who are emotionally broken to seek comfort and confidence from another man. This does make them feel better and the vision of her current relationship will fade into nothingness as she explores this new exciting venture. It is also easier to justify cheating this way too, although I doubt men see it that way! If your woman is starting to turn inward then you should be considering whether you are making her feel like number one. If you never intend to make her your number one then it is much kinder to let her go than leave her feeling lonely. Cheating is never okay, although when a woman cheats you can usually create a timeline of how it happened.
Extreme circumstances where women cheat (and it is becoming more of an occurrence in these materialistic times), is when they have a scarily large ego with low self-worth. Self-confidence is a beautiful thing but seeking to destroy others to fill yourself up is not. Some women cannot help themselves and they see every other female as competition. Job, looks, clothes, figure, humour, intelligence you name it they will compare every last detail of themselves to someone they are jealous of…and they may even look to your man for self-validation. Unfortunately, there are those out there who actually enjoy trying to take someone else’s partner just prove their worth to themselves. Women who have partners themselves whilst doing this are seriously messed up and will most likely need counselling to resolve their issues. Not only are they stripping away their dignity, they are also putting their man’s wellbeing at risk. Any man dating a woman with this nature should back off quick because she will break your heart, your head and your wallet. Such behaviour in a woman is usually accompanied with other behaviour like gossiping about other women, excessive drinking, attention seeking and maybe even drugs.
Another common but saddening reason women cheat is when they are being physically abused or mentally manipulated. As per my previous blog post ‘Emotional Manipulation’, it takes a number of mental processes to be exhausted for someone to leave such a relationship. It can be brought to an end by the woman seeing the light at the end of the tunnel with another man. Often it is helplessness and fear that keep women in such relationships and the presence of a new man can create a feeling of safety, allowing the woman to break free by cheating with them. This new relationship may not work out, however, it served a purpose of getting rid of the ‘problem’.
Some women have just had enough of men altogether! They have experienced all the above and have got the t-shirt to prove it. As a result they no longer care about love and only care about what they can get out of it for themselves. Date a kitchen fitter to get your kitchen sorted, date a builder to get that extension, marry a wealthy man then divorce him for his money and so on. These women have literally had their heart broken and have made a firm decision to let it turn to stone rather than heal. So if she seems overly keen about what you can give her, you may have just pulled a woman who wants to take you for a ride then kick you to the curb. These people need the compassion of others to help them heal and some may never come back to love.
So, where temptation is a man’s weakness, emotions are the woman’s, particularly the feeling of loneliness. If you can’t talk about the problems in the relationship then end it, as cheating is ultimately a soul destroyer for both sides.