Whether you think it or not you are in some sort of Christmas War, we all are. From fighting the queues in the shops to convincing your five-year-old Santa is real (because someone at school said he isn’t!), we all want that happy magical day. So how do we get through these festive times of stress?
Well, checking Facebook and Instagram posts I have found some common themes that cropped up last year…
The age old ‘I’m a better parent than my ex’
Number one so far on Facebook is baby mother/father drama. I’m not quite sure why I thought this wouldn’t be a reoccurring theme but it seems I am filled with too much Christmas hope that parents can get on for the sake of their kids. Let’s get this clear now, if you’re letting your ex drive your emotions so far that you must post on Facebook, then you haven’t fully moved on. Whether it is love or anger just let it go, let it go, they can’t hold you back anymore! Ultimately, kids don’t care if Mum spent £100.00 more than Dad, or if they open their presents at yours or Grandma Joan’s, they just want happy festive fun. So, if deadbeat other parent is not having the sprog over the holidays or they haven’t met your standards of buying, maybe you should keep your beak out of their business? You’re doing everything right, right? After all, they are nothing to do with you anymore, you just share kids! It is ‘social’ media not ‘personal’ media. Let it go, accept whatever your ex is doing with the kids and make sure YOUR time with them is memorable.
‘I told my mum we’ll be there at 12pm’
When two people merge their lives, they must haggle over their ‘Christmas time’ and who gets it. You may spend the festive day at your mums for dinner, see Aunty Julie in the afternoon and then share a sherry with Grandad in the evening. Your partner protests this, as they have already told their mum you are going to hers for dinner! Major time consuming debates ahead to resolve…but there is an easy answer…stay at home! Why let your day be ruined by social dictators? If they want to see you and your kids so bad tell them you’re having Christmas at home and they are more than welcome to stop by for egg nog (said no one in the UK ever). You should anticipate some guilt tripping from family over Christmas, just remember, it is your day too and you are not obligated to spend it trying to people please.
‘I can’t go to the pub, I’m skint mate’
How many of us get to January with empty wallets and pray we can make our pennies last until payday? The pressure of buying for lots of people, or getting literally everything your child wants can easily spoil the break. Where Christmas used to be a religious holiday, in its place lies an overly commercialised day which the media and high streets ram down our throats. Each year proud mothers post the pile for presents for their little one on Facebook, to show off their generosity (or stupidity depending on your view point) and general superiority as a parent. Take it from Thrine in the politest way…no one gives a damn what you buy your kid for Christmas. If you want to be suckered in to filling your house with crap and creating a brat in the process, that really is your business. To those with common sense, only spend what you can afford and don’t feel obligated to buy for adults. The day is about family and love, don’t let the materialistic aspects take over too much. If your children get to a point at Christmas where they openly tell you they don’t like their presents, or some presents remain untouched for months after then you have over done it…you have successfully created a spoiled brat. Lastly, adults deserve fun at Christmas too, so at least save yourself some money for a cheeky tipple!
‘I don’t celebrate Christmas’
You think you have it bad trying to plan Christmas? Think about those who don’t celebrate it! Almost everything in the UK is shut on Christmas Day. The High Streets, Supermarkets, Restaurants…you name it, it is shut, confining everyone to their homes. In addition to the inconvenience of the day, there is the big Christmas rush leading up to it. A non-Christian, non-Christmas day celebrator may need to go Primark for some socks in December and he/she is met with a snaking queue that stretches to the street outside. He/she seeks out the pound shop for some AA batteries but can’t even squeeze in the door due to some women fighting over the last Santa sacks. Help him out by doing most your buying online…in November!
So, there you have it, a little overview of ‘Christmas Wars’. Rest assured, there is a happier Christmas blog post in me somewhere. I will get it to you before the guy with the white beard comes down your chimney or when the cows come home…whichever happens first.