Have you ever been happily pottering away with a task and someone butts in to tell you to do it another way? And even when you say, ‘I’m fine with it thank you’, they continue rabbiting on?
Of course you have…and it is annoying!
Well, depending on your nature it is annoying. I would love to be so laid back that I could find the humour in these situations. But the truth is if I want help I will ask for it! People like this fall into one of two categories, or both if you are unlucky. They are Never Wrongs & Know It All’s.
Let’s start with Never Wrongs. Never wrongs find it difficult to have positive conversations. An effective chin wag is where each party listens to the other, offers encouraging comments and refrains from questioning the validity of every statement made. Never wrongs just cannot help themselves. It is like OCD. Their self-importance is so great they must feel superior to you by poking holes in what you say. Or they will pick up on minor things you say and go into great detail about it to educate you. For example, you comment something like ‘I cannot wait to go to the gym tonight’ and they respond by telling you exactly what exercises you should be doing, which gym you should be going to and what meal plan you should have.
People like this can leave you lost for words, as you do not understand why they responded the way they did. The easy way to get out of this awkwardness is to stick to one word answers like… ‘Thank you’. This does not leave the conversation open for another response, it just lets them know you have heard them…loud and clear! As soon as you open yourself up to their dialogue they will try to tell you what you should be doing with every aspect of your life. Even when they are clearly wrong in what they say, they will still tell you with conviction that they are in fact right, so it is not worth exhausting yourself and getting into the pettiness of it.
Know it all’s are slightly different than Never Wrongs, although they share a number of similar traits. This species of human seeks out conversations to interrupt. For instance, you are asked a specific question by someone and they are making it clear they have come to seek an answer from you. All of a sudden, immediately after they have asked the question, the know it all appears like flash and answers it before you can even exhale. You can feel quite put out in these situations if you are a person of manners and morals.
Again, as with the Never Wrongs, just let them be. Let them believe in their small world they are the highest being on Earth. It may be difficult not to retort but why set yourself up for an argument? Know it all’s are usually people who listen with the intent to reply. They are not interested in the knowledge you hold, nor anyone else for that matter. One day (hopefully), they may learn that being right is just as important as knowing when to shut the hell up. And secondly, that if they just closed their cake hole and listened for a moment they may learn something new,
which leads to…growth!
If any of this post rings true for you and you are now facing the horrifying fact that you maybe a know it all or a never wrong, then you need to consider that maybe you are looking for validation. Unfortunately, insisting you are always right and constantly interrupting with your ‘knowledge’ will not validate you. You can only validate yourself. So continue being confident in your abilities and only butt in if you are