My last blog post ended with the notion that what you put into the universe you get back, which I believe is correct…to a certain extent. Sadly, there are areas of life that do not fall under the umbrella of beautiful karma, as karma is essentially about ‘self’. It is inevitable that at some point in our lives other people’s situations will impact on our own. Whether it is an issue with our children, partners, best friends, parents/grandparents or some random stranger, we must all experience the dramas and pain of life. Whilst it is unavoidable, unless we isolate ourselves completely, there is always the option of ‘The Back-Up Plan’ to give us mental stability.
Unfortunately for us as emotional beings, the worst tends to occur when we are in periods of contentment. I like contentment as much as Winnie the Pooh stuck in a honey pot, however, this mind state is where we are at our most vulnerable. We have all heard a story of someone who is unbelievably happy then out of the blue their world is torn apart by an event such as a death, a betrayal or an illness.
The concept of the back-up plan is to preempt what could potentially blow up in our lives. It does not sound much fun though does it? I am not suggesting we all sit and agonise over every possibility but we should have things in place to ensure our mental stability, should the worst arise. This could be having a secret pot of money for a quick getaway to mull things over, having an arrangement with someone to stay with at short notice, or even having back up employment. For those traumas or changes that occur without notice, we need to focus on our mental strength and coping mechanisms before taking action. This post is not about fearing the worst, it is about ensuring we can rely on our inner strength by preparing it for times of trauma and/or change.
Dealing with trauma and/or change can send the body and mind into flight and fight responses, which are damaging to our health if experienced excessively. If we have secret plans, places and finances to fall back on then no matter what the situation is, we can feel secure by immediately thinking about ‘The Back-Up Plan’. This is for extreme or trying circumstances, although some readers may think it is…selfish (this is quickly becoming my favourite word). It is important to realise that there is a difference between selfishness and protecting our minds from stress.
Admittedly, not every situation is resolvable or avoidable, although at least with the back-up plan we can control our part in a situation and remain level headed until the moment has passed. The immediate priority in these circumstances should always be our own mental well being, otherwise we are not be in the right frame of mind to effectively support others. The most important point is- Do not feel guilty for having a back-up plan. It should not include partners, children, friends or anyone else. It is just for you and nobody needs to be aware of it.
Change and trauma can be emotionally paralysing and we all deserve inner peace and happiness. The beauty of being human is that we have the ability to think, choose and act. Remain positive and strong by safeguarding your mind and preparing your back up plan. The wicked will strike in moments of serenity and the back up plan will be your tiny light in the dark.
If you’re wondering what mine is…
…it involves a mountain, a river, a stray dog and a fishing line.